Face Your Fears? Extreme Athletes, First Responders Say it’s the Best Way to Overcome Them
Published: Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Updated: Thursday, July 19, 2012 16:07
Marilyn Monroe once said that “we should all start living before we get old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets.”
Fear forces us to make irrational decisions. It makes you not ask out that girl you had a crush on, it makes you pass up a job opportunity and it limits your ability to chase your dreams.
Taking a risk and doing something crazy makes life worth living.
When people look at me, they generally notice the mohawk and the sneakers. But something I have wanted to try doing my entire life is trade those in for a cowboy hat and boots and ride a real life bull.
Something about attempting to hold on to a 2,000-pound beast for eight seconds that wants nothing more than to hurl me off it’s back sounds exhilarating.
However, for reasons I shouldn’t have to explain, the fear of being stomped to death by my bucking adversary has kept me from trying this yet.
It’s Dr. Patrick McGrath’s job to help people face their fears. “Slowly and gradually” McGrath, who is the director of the Alexian Brothers Center for Anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder in Hoffman Estates, Illinois, said that he puts people into situations that they fear, in hopes that they can overcome it.
According to McGrath, it is our brain that leads us to having fears, not necessarily the thing that we are afraid of.
“We often want to blame the thing that we are afraid of for our fears, but it turns out that we fear things based on how we perceive them, not actually on what they are,” McGrath said. “This is why one person can fear something while another person can think that it is really cool.”
The causes of fear vary from case to case, McGrath said. However, the way people respond to them seems to be somewhat more consistent.
“We learn that something is dangerous, maybe we almost got hurt by it, maybe we saw someone else get hurt by it, or maybe it even hurt us,” McGrath said. “Whatever it was, our fight-flight-freeze response was activated and now we associate that triggered response with whatever triggered it and we do not ever want to experience that again.”
McGrath explained this as our brain’s natural reaction to stay out of danger.
Like many things in life, McGrath said that the best way to face your fears is head on.
“The only way to overcome a fear is to face that fear. If you do not face it, then you will always fear it,” McGrath said. “You cannot be talked out of a fear. You have to behave your way out of a fear.”
McGrath agreed with me when I said that it seemed like some people are generally more resistant to fear.
“There may be genetic aspects that lead some people to be more fearful than others. Learning may also play a role,” McGrath said. “People who have faced fears through their lives may have some more resilience than do others, but this is in no way a guarantee that you will not fear something.”
Face to Face
Ahwatukee resident Tom Wiggins is one of those seemingly fearless people.
This 47-year-old surgical assistant is currently training for his second Ironman in two years.
“I trained for my first Ironman in 2009 from mid-November till the end of August but had to pull plug because of knee surgery,” Wiggins said. “[I] still did swim in 1 hour, 19 minutes but had to pull out after that.”
However, Wiggins didn’t let his injury crush his dreams of running an Ironman.
In 2010 he ran his first full Ironman, finishing in 13 hours and 35 minutes.
“I was never scared, but had doubt that I could ever finish one,” Wiggins said. “[I] just trained as hard as I could and day of race told myself, ‘Let's just have some fun.’”
This year, Wiggins will compete in Ironman, Arizona which includes a 2.4-mile swim, 112-mile bike ride and a 26.2-mile run.
“This year's goal is under 12 hours 30 minutes,” Wiggins said. “I know to accomplish this, I have to get my ass off the couch and hit the road.”
Not only is Wiggins unafraid of the Ironman, but he feels that lessons can be learned from fighting through the pain and fear of not finishing this strenuous race.
“Pain and fear are friends you misunderstand,” he said. “You can handle much more pain than you ever thought you could. Pay attention to your fears; they will help you overcome them if you listen.”
Wiggins said that the most beneficial thing about the Ironman is it’s a great way to develop mental toughness and to relieve stresses.
In his opinion, anyone with the time, money and willingness to commit to doing the race should definitely go for it.
“Make sure your family and friends are behind you and support you,” Wiggins said. “Once you have their blessing, give yourself at least seven months of training and 10 to 20 hours a week of swimming, biking, and running. Proper nutrition and plenty of rest are a must.”
Some people are like Wiggins, who punches fear in the face and feeds off the energy that comes with taking risks.
However, others fight fear using things have been trained or learned.
Fire with Fire
John Valenzuela, the Assistant Fire Chief for the City of Tempe, has been with the fire department for 20 years and held nearly every position during that time.
He said the knowledge and training given at fire school is what makes firemen seem fearless.
“We teach you how to react to fear,” Valenzuela said. “Naturally, your body only has one way to deal with fear, fight or flight.”