Communication Breakdown: Why we Can't Talk Anymore
Published: Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Updated: Wednesday, July 25, 2012 17:07
Not too long ago, I logged on to Facebook for the usual routine. I checked some messages, replied “maybe” to a few events I have no intention of going to and browsed a few statuses to see if anyone was talking about something interesting.
I remember one post that caught my eye. My roommate had written on my other roommate’s wall to ask if he wanted to play Xbox.
The question itself did not surprise me because my roommates play video games all the time. However, what the question stood for was much more troubling.
Both of my roommates were home and in their rooms at the time and decided the most convenient way to communicate with each other was on a Facebook wall.
Did I mention the distance between their rooms is no more than 15 feet?
Apparently that journey was too much for these gentlemen to venture.
This not only further prove my roommates abilities to, as they would say, “out lazy anyone.” It also showed what my generation’s social customs have become.
Text messages have replaced phone calls, emails have replaced letters and social media has revolutionized how and why we communicate with people.
Sure, there are times when social media and the ability to reach a large audience so conveniently can be beneficial. But under other circumstances, the intimacy of a one-on-one conversation is lost.
When you are throwing a party, your first reaction isn’t to send invitations in the mail or to personally invite people. Instead, you’re going to send a mass text and probably make a Facebook event because you don’t want to deal with 40 people asking for your address.
Not only does this show that you are lazy, but it also shows you really don’t care if all of these people come to your party.
This is the society we now live in. Real conversation is just about dead.
In the NBC show “Community,” there is an episode in which socially-awkward Abed (Danny Pudi) asks cool guy Jeff (Joel McHale) to go to dinner with him at a very nice restaurant for his birthday. Abed tells Jeff that he intends to have his first “real conversation” with him that night, so the two get to talking.
Abed explains to Jeff that he has changed and is now a normal person, rather than the obsessive TV/movie geek that fans of the show have grown to love.
It eventually turns out that Abed is just playing a joke on Jeff and simply trying to make their dinner resemble the classic movie “My Dinner with Andre.”
The point is that many people in my generation are just like Abed. They have never had a “real conversation.”
My challenge to you is that sometime this week, go have your own “Dinner with Andre” and learn what a real conversation is all about.