College Times

Issue date: 4/23/09 Section: Blogs

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People stay in relationships for many reasons and, unfortunately, a lot of the time they are not healthy reasons.

Once a relationship develops, you might find that you don't exactly like your significant other as much as you thought you did. Sometimes this happens after you're married and even after you have kids. Even if you have a family or you've been dating for two weeks, if a relationship isn't working, you need to move on.

In a lot of cases, people stay with one another because it's part of their plan. They've foreseen that this is the person that they're to be with, so even if there are bumps in the relationship, they'll make it their mission to change this person into what they want.

They might think: this person is the one, he just needs to work on communicating more, or she just needs to stop partying so much.

When we're in this situation we've got the love-blinders on, which sort of causes us to be in denial. We're hopeful and determined that this person is going to change.

Well, as they say, people don't change. Even though they might work on these things to make you happy, in the end, you can't make someone into something they're not, and you need to accept that.

Other times people give up on trying, but stay in a relationship because of their own insecurities or the fact that they simply don't want to be alone.

Life's too short for that.

You're never stuck in something, and although it might feel like it, the truth is that you never know what's going to happen, so you just have to move on and allow for other things to come into your life.

Even if you're with someone that might be a good person, it does not mean that they're right for you. You don't have to stay in a relationship until everything goes to hell and you both hate each other to know that it should be over. You can be friends with your ex and move on without the drama. You should only be with someone if they are making you happy and bringing out the best in each of you.

If your partner holds you back from being creative, or social or living your life, then he or she is probably not the right person for you. So instead of settling, chalk it up to a life experience that you got to share with this person, appreciate the things that you learned from it and move on until you're really happy.

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