College Times

Issue date: 7/23/09 Section: Sex

What's the deal with modern women and their newly-found vampire obsession? I get that vampires are supposed to be these sexy and seductive beings, but the "Twilight" and "True Blood" guys that all the girls seem to be in love with are not sexy, they're stalkers! I don't get it. When did telling a girl that you basically own her and then stalking her become what girls want?

I finally watched "Twilight" and was so confused. Edward Cullen barely even knew his "love" Bella before he declared her his, and then proceeded to tell her something along the lines of "I will always be with you," then watched her sleep and constantly knew what she was doing at all times. Creepy! Ladies, if that ever happens to you in real life, watch out because that person is too attached and that can be dangerous.

First off, no one can own you, and if you want someone to then you need to figure out why you have these dependency issues. Sure, some girls are looking for that knight in shining armor to sweep them off their feet, worship them and protect them forever, I get that. On top of that, throw in the bad boy attitude and the girls will line up. But these media vampires scare me. They're possessive control freaks that really haven't done anything to win over these girls. Well, with exception for saving their lives, but they're the ones who got them in those situations to begin with.

They don't get to know or even try to impress the objects of their desire. They simply say "you are mine" and the girls are game. Maybe that's how vampires roll and they're not real so we don't really have to worry about it. But after the "Twilight" and "True Blood" craze I've found that everyday real girls are way too attracted to these guys and their behavior.

My friend dated a girl who had just finished reading "Twilight" and she had this fantasy that he would be her Edward Cullen. She said that vampires were hot and that she wanted him to be hers.

Ladies, this is causing us to take a major step backwards. Hopefully it's all just a fantasy, but I worry that the teenagers that these ideas are marketed to may begin to think that is what they want in a partner.

You don't have to be a damsel in distress that needs a man to save her. Also, your partner does not need to be your entire world. You shouldn't need to know where one another are at all times; that kind of clingy-ness leads to dependency that can take you away from other aspects of your life, like your friends, family and goals.

Relationships are a positive addition to life that some are lucky to have, but it is not everything. You can't put everything you have into one person because that's not living your life.

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