College Times

Issue date: 8/20/09 Section: Sex

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Dating can be awkward: the key is just to relax and be yourself without going overboard. To have a successful first date, try going somewhere fun where there's actually something going on, like a dinner theater or a concert. That way there are distractions to break up just staring at each other from across a table. Alcohol doesn't hurt either! I, for one, have had failed first dates where I later asked myself, 'why didn't I just have a couple drinks and loosen up rather then sitting there like a nervous prude?!'

If you have nothing to talk about then just ask them questions. People love to talk about themselves and this will help to keep the conversation going while allowing you to get to know them more.

Regardless of what you do, just don't do any of the following, since they're common mistakes that send guys running:

•Be a sloppy drunk. Having a drink or two is fine if you can handle it, but getting sloshed on the first date is not hot. It gives off the vibe that you're good to party or hook up with, but not girlfriend material.

•Talk about your future. It's good to know if people you're courting do eventually want to settle down, but easy girls. This freaks guys out, so if you feel the need to know how he feels about these issues, gently bring it up. Don't get wasted and say things like "we would have cute kids!" and "if you divorce me I'll kill you!" I've seen this happen on first date; (i.e my "Girls Gone Wild" column).

•Have bad hygiene. Make sure you're clean and smelling fresh. Shave what needs to be shaved and pop a mint and avoid onions and garlic at dinner. Most of all, don't burp or fart: your date's not looking for a new video game buddy.

•Talk about your ex. Saying good things sounds like you still have a thing for them, while saying bad things sounds like you may not be a good potential partner and are carrying ex baggage - not good.

•Talk about money. Last week at a bar this guy asked me how much money I make! I was appalled - who does that?! If you do that, stop. It's rude and inappropriate. If you make a lot and feel the need to tell your date, find a roundabout way to mention it. Don't show off: it's extremely off-putting and makes you sound like you care about money too much.

•Be a downer. It's the first date: try to avoid bringing up negative topics - you want your date to see the fun, positive side of you. Nobody wants a second date with Debbie Downer.

•Text, use the phone, take medicine or re-apply makeup. Go to the restroom for these tasks, but don't do it at the table in front of your date: it will make you look bored and uninterested.

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